I was so sold out on giving my Daughter all she needs to become the best Girl any man would love to be with, that I forgot the basics – Loving herself first and others afterwards.
Yes, I know you would be frowning your face on me insisting that my Daughter love herself first before she can extend that love to others in and around here Circle.
Well, in this life, I have learnt that many people do not love themselves, hence they tend to do anything and everything possible to make People in their Circle to Love them. But if they had looked inwards, they would realise that the First Rule of Relationship is Love yourself First.
Why Should my Daughter love herself First?
You may ask why should I tell my Daughter to love herself first. Yes, I have realised like I’ve told you earlier that when you love yourself, you would feel empty and wholly wanting others to love you, that you become unaware of the beauty you possess inside and yearn for people’s Love or approval.
Looking for People’s approval is not a bad thing, after all, every Relationship must have some element of Love and Approval for it to stand the test of time. But you can’t give what you don’t have, hence you fight to get it or do extra work to have it.
Let me not confuse you here. Being once confused about falling in love and being loved, I yearned for the attention of Jason. He is a good looking hunk, with muscles reaching out of his well-curved chest like roots of a well-grounded Oak tree.
Jason has these blue eyes that sparkled like when the sun smiles at the Caribbean beaches. Let me not even start with his smiles, they are so secretly astonishing.
The moment he draws the smile off his well-guarded mouth, your heart will melt, because his smiles are magical, showing off a well-polished set of teeth.
I was in love first before my Daughter
I do not need to tell you that Jason swept me off my feet the very first time we met, and till this day, I still dream of the first moments we had some mad passionate kiss. It was bliss and I was lost in his cares.
I must say I am the luckiest woman on Earth, as meeting Jason has made me realise that Loving myself first, I would love someone so passionately like that.
Now to make you feel more relaxed when you love yourself, you would be in a position to let go of your ego, your pride and your innermost hindrances and then be open to love someone else almost like you love yourself.
You would have overcome almost all hindrances that come with self-love. The likes of Jealousy, hatred, selfishness, you name it.
I was able to overcome my jealousy of having Jason talk with any other girl apart from me. You know it’s not easy to be seen in the company of the most talked about guy in the whole University ground. It turns out that as you seek for his attention, so are over a thousand other girls. So if he has chosen you and has been a great guy and being by your side all the time, then you know that you have nothing to fear.
Well, that’s the story of Jason and me, and how I overcame the fear of loving myself. I have always wanted to teach my daughter about it, and have tried all my best to keep her in check. But these few days, I have not been able to understand her jealousy and rage anytime Ryan come around.
Am I in love with my Daughter’s Boyfriend?
It looks like she is having the feeling that I like Ryan more than I like her, or that I am falling for her boyfriend. And before you start having some thoughts in your mind, let me make it clear that, despite the fact that I love good-looking men, I only like Wyan as my Daughter’s boyfriend and I love having him around too.
Is there anything wrong in wanting your Daughter’s boyfriend around the house? I am so confused now and would love you to tell me what to do.
I am not admitting that I am having any feelings for Ryan, as you may have been thinking… but with the way my daughter is acting, I don’t know what I’m capable of doing anymore.
Does this make me a bad mother? Please let me know.
And stop thinking about Jason, we lost him when Janet was 15, and I have been single all the years, making sure that all my Children have all the Love and care they deserve.
So please, can you in all sincerity, let me know what wrong I have done so far.